Even if you’re the most patient person in the world, dealing with a difficult partner will still push you to your limits. Although it’s normal and healthy to fight in relationships, it’s still important to avoid the trouble before it even starts. So before you become too frustrated with your partner, here are three types of the most difficult partners that you can have, as well as the ways on how you can deal and improve your relationship with them.
- The Jealous Type
Ever had a partner who seem to never trust you? Well, that’s how jealous partners work. This type of partner acts the way he does because they are highly insecure in a way that he himself can’t help. Some of them are even aware that most of their paranoia is irrational, but they still can’t help feeling the fear and insecurity. While it may sometimes feel like a question of trust, it’s actually not you they distrust but the people around you or the situation that you’re in. They fear that somebody out there is bound to steal you away from him.
The Fix: Although it’s easier to just bicker with a jealous partner, having proper communication is really the key to solve his trust issues. You can reassure him by arranging a dinner date where both of you and your guy friends can hang out together. That way, your guy and your friends can have actual conversations, and once he sees that your guy friend isn’t really the horrible person he thinks him to be, he’ll learn to ease up. This may take some time though, so just be patient with him.
- The Moody Type
While being moody is quite common in girls, there are still plenty of guys who get all too sensitive and broody in just a minute. Although this can be hard, since your moods tend to get intertwined with your partner, it’s important that you understand that they didn’t want to feel bad all of a sudden. When their mood strikes, they can’t do anything to fend off from it. Understand that more than you or anyone else, they themselves want the sadness to end.
The Fix: One good thing about moods is that they end just as inevitably and suddenly as they begin. While it’s quite common to want to help and cheer your partner up, doing so won’t help most of the time. Moods have no cause or fix – they just happen and end. It’s important that you remind him about this and to ensure that you’ll just be by his side until the sadness fades.
- The Addict Type
Almost everyone has a vice. They are good stress relievers and has already become a part of our everyday life. If you’re lucky enough, your partner may be addicted to baking you cookies and cupcakes but more often, we get partners who are smokers, or worse, porn addicts. This happens as it’s not impossible for you to fall in love with someone who has a vice that you don’t altogether agree with. Although you don’t want to be controlling, you still fear for your partner’s health and this makes you want to force a well-meant change into his life.
The Fix: There are several ways as to how you can make your partner realize that have already become addicted on a particular vice. But regardless of the method you choose to use, it’s important that you do it out of love and not out of judgment. Once he realizes and admits the problem, all that’s left to do is to discipline him. Remember to not falter in this phase though, as your partner surely will.
Relationships are a two-way street, which is why both parties need to work toward finding common ground to make their relationship prosper. Instead of arguing about your partner’s traits and behaviour, learn to understand and care for him even more.